Sunday, October 28, 2012

No more mid-life bimbo

Let Her Know You’re There
for the Long Haul

Remove any fear of abandonment.  It has been reported that 7 of 10 husbands leave and divorce after their wife is diagnosed and treated for breast cancer.  Not very good for we men, however, the same rate of breakup is true for almost any trauma in a couple’s life, such as a child with severe disabilities.  If a marriage relationship is weak already, not well grounded, it can be torn asunder.  Conversely, a basically solid relationship will become better and richer getting through an adversity like this.

We as a culture are experiencing a 60% divorce rate with or without trauma as a precipitating “cause.”  We now read about young people having “starter marriages” as a prelude to or preparation for a “real” marriage.  Whatever happened to “in sickness and in health” or “until death us do part.”  Be a real man.  Love her.  Reassure her.  Remember the love and the friendship that brought you together.  Stay with her.  Grow with her. Let her complete you as she did before cancer struck.  Your wedding vows are sacred.  They are meant for a lifetime.

When the dust settles after this battle, a real man is still standing together with his soul mate, his lover, his bride, his partner for life, and, if so blessed, the mother of his children.

1 comment:

Fifafan said...

Thank you for this post. I agree 100%. My bride of 16 years and I have gone through the trauma of losing our first child after 8 weeks of life, as well as a diagnosis of Stage 3 breast cancer for my wife. Today, we are happier than ever, living our lives together, building each other up, laughing with and at each other, and being parents to our two beautiful children. God has a plan for us, and part of that plan is to stay together. No matter what.

Rod E. Kok